Saturday, May 19, 2012

To the JOHNs of the world


Many centuries ago a great poet and playwright, William Shakespeare wrote the epic lines – 

“What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet”
 
I think what Shakespeare wanted to clarify that the names of thing or people don’t matter much as much their qualities do. Clearly nobody had referred to him as “Bill” Shakespeare. Bill…hmm, that would taken away the nobility, the gravitas out of that name, maybe…

But some names are such that by the sound they exude power, passion, success, an aura of superiority. And more often than not, such a name might be used for fictional characters in popular arts (movies, dramas, stories, novels) and their real life holders are equally intriguing personalities.

So while we are here, why not pick up one name which has clearly been the ‘favored’ name amongst all names – JOHN.

JOHN, the sound itself is…”Hell Yeah, Step the F*** out of my way or I’m gonna mow you down!!!”

"John is a masculine given name in the English language. The name is derived from the Latin Ioannes, Iohannes, which is in turn a form of the Greek Ἰωάννης, Iōánnēs. This Greek name is a form of the Hebrew name יוֹחָנָן, anan, which means "Graced by Yahweh""
- JOHN

So here, I present my favorite 10 JOHNs.

 
10.  John Rambo

Aah…this is what inspired me to take up the word JOHN in the first place. Blood, Guts, Insanity, Sorrow rolled into one character and played by the iconic Sylvester Stallone…John Rambo is the pinnacle of being the average ‘no-nonsense-bad-ass’ guy. Everything about Rambo reeks of steely determination and strength whether it’s the mountain hide-n-seek with Sheriff Teasle (Rambo: First Blood), or the punishment he endures at the hand of Lt. Col. Podovsky (Rambo II) or the game of buzkashi with the Afghans (Rambo III) or the mad intensity with which he dispatches Major Pa Tee Tint (Rambo IV) to hell…John Rambo is what every guy wants to be deep within…unchained, unleashed and totally freaked-out maniac.
Picture  - www.stallonezone.com






 9. John Gotti (October 27, 1940 – June 10, 2002)

First up, I don't condone crime and I certainly believe crime doesn't pay..even in the case of John 'Teflon Don" Gotti. He became the head of USA's most powerful crime family - The Gambinos, in 1985 at the age of 45 by killing the then boss Paul Costellano. Some achievement that was. He was given the nickname "The Teflon Don" after three high-profile trials in the 1980s resulted in his acquittal (i.e. the charges didn't "stick"). Being the true gentleman that he was, he always offered FBI agents coffee before being whisked away for interrogations or for trials. But he was every bit as hard, coldblooded, calculative, tough and unforgiving as you'd expect a mafia don to be. (He got his neighbor killed by throwing him in an acid drum). For the first time, a mafia don's real life was in full public view and he was what a Don Vito Corleone would have been in real life. 

P.S. Personal opinion, but I think Eric Roberts' character Salvatore Maroni (The Dark Knight) was inspired from the original don.









                                                                 Eric Roberts

John Gotti

For more reading - John Gotti


8. John D Rockefeller (July 8, 1839 – May 23, 1937)

An oil industrialist, an investor, and a philanthropist, John D Rockefeller was one of the pioneers of the greatest modern day empires. An empire which didn’t rely on weapons to stretch its boundaries rather used economics and capitalism to do the same. Just like the sun never set on the British Empire, Standard was the first and by far the largest MNC the world had ever seen. Eventually it was broken up by the US Supreme Court on grounds of monopolist tactics but the spin offs itself grew to be huge companies in their own right – Conoco, ExxonMobil, Chevron…each of them are giants in their own right.
The man may well have been the richest man in the history of humankind (in 1937, his personal wealth was $1.4 billion against the total US GDP of $94 billion!) but he’ll always be known for his philanthropic trusts and contributions toward setting up colleges, universities and research grants.

For more reading - John D Rockefeller 

 7. John Cena

You Can’t See ME!!! Weighing at 251 pounds, from Tampa, FL…John Cena!
Mix up a baby-face with a rapper’s ‘I-don’t-give-a-damn’ attitude, add tons of fan followership, spruce it up with a solid built and theatrics in the ring…you get this all round entertainer. WWE has never been this interesting until John Cena, a man who thinks of himself as a soldier and a people’s poster-boy came along.
 














6. John Doe

The ambiguous, the unknown, the one person whom no one will look out for. Even if he’s dead, no body will search for him, there’ll be no wreaths on his grave just an unmarked grave…at the most a name on the tomb stone – John Doe.

The names "John Doe" for males and "Jane Doe" or "Jane Roe" for females are used as placeholder names for a party whose true identity is unknown or must be withheld in a legal action, case, or discussion. The names are also used to refer to a corpse or hospital patient whose identity is unknown. - John Doe

Frank Capra directed a movie “Meet John Doe” which was later copied in Hindi movies as “Mai Azad Hoon” starring Amitabh Bacchan. The concept was the same – a letter from an anonymous person turns into a political revolution and since the John Doe never existed (it was a hoax letter), an unknown person is brought in to embody the idea of a John Doe.
P.S. Mai Azaad Hoon was marred by super hammy acting by Amitabh Bacchan but had an awesome song – “itne bazu itne sir, gin le dushman dhyaan se….haarega tu har baazi, jab khele hum jee jaan se”

He's just a nameless face, forgotten, alone, left to die/rot somewhere in the shadows...maybe he had a story to tell, maybe he had a family, but for all we'll ever know...he was just John Doe.

5. John E List (September 17, 1925 – March 21, 2008)

A big 19 room 3-storey bungalow, a pretty wife, 3 school-going bright young kids, and a mother. Life must have been great for an account in New Jersey in the winter of 1971 (the house was the most expensive house in the locality at that time)

But under the surface, things were not right – John Emil List had lost his job, he owed $11,000 on his home loan, his wife was suffering from syphilis (contracted from her ex-husband), the eldest daughter was smoking and the mother was not keeping well (she was 85)

So there were two solutions, either go for state welfare program (which would hurt the ego) or kill the family and send their souls to heaven.

 The List family in happier times

John List's mother, Alma, was murdered in the attic. She had been closed into a storage hall off the kitchen, and a dishtowel was placed on her face. Her body had been oddly positioned on her back, knees spread and her calves under her, as if she had fallen to her knees and then gone over backwards. The police lifted the towel and saw an expression of horror on her face. She had been shot above the left eye.

The wife, Helen had been shot in the left side of the head in the kitchen and dragged by the feet down the hall to the ballroom.

Patty, the daughter lay on her left side. She was wearing a coat, as if she had just come in from outside. She too had been shot in the head and then dragged to where she lay. Youngest son, Fred was on his stomach, also wearing a jacket. There was a pool of blood under his head. Brother and sister appeared to be merely asleep.

The middle child, John Jr. was another matter. His winter jacket was unzipped, showing that he had come in the house and then tried to struggle. He had been shot repeatedly, in the chest and face, an attack more savage than the others had suffered. In total 10 bullets were removed from his body.

It was Westfield, New Jersey's first murder in eight years, and it was a slaughter.

The FBI lost the trail and case went into cold case files, never to be solved. But 28 years later, with the help of America’s Most Wanted TV program…on June 1, 1989 the FBI got a mysterious tip and finally John E. List was caught after changing his name to Bob Clark, remarrying and living a comfortable life in Virginia.

Case Closed.

For further reading - John E List

 
4. John McClane

With little or no regard for rules, sarcastic wit and loads of problems with the ‘bad guys’, this is one police-man you wouldn’t want to me mess with.

He has all the needed ingredients for making the perfect bad-ass cop – , foul-mouthed, wisecracking, almost always suspended or being reprimanded at the job, a wife who is seeking separation, children who don’t listen to him, a never say die attitude and on top of that megalomaniac villains who just don’t to take him seriously…and kabooom! He goes into overdrive.

Even at death’s door, the man has the guts to spew out quality witty rejoinders to villains. Sample this,

Villain Hans Gruber (Die Hard) describes him as "just another American... who thinks he's John Wayne,". McClane replies that he "was always partial to Roy Rogers.”

When Villain Thomas Gabriel (Die Hard 4) asks him where is Mai (his side-kick), this is what McClane replies (in true McClane spirit) – “Mai? Oh, yeah. Little Asian chick, likes to kick people? I don't think she's gonna be talkin' to anybody for a really long time. Last time I saw her she was at the bottom of a elevator shaft with an SUV rammed up her a**.”

So if you are a bad guy, stay away from John McClane, else...well...he'll simply shout "Yippee-Ki-Yay-Motherf****r!" 

 Once a bad-ass....always a bad-ass

3. John F Kennedy (May 29, 1917 – November 22, 1963)

"Let every nation know... that we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe, to assure the survival and the success of liberty."

"Ask not what your country can do for you - ask what you can do for your country"

"For only when our arms are sufficient beyond doubt can we be certain beyond doubt that they will never be employed."

On a chilly January morning of 1961, John Fitzgerald Kennedy became the youngest president of USA. And his short term of little less than 3 yrs in office (Jan 20, 1961 – Nov 22, 1963) saw some of the most notable events in the course of world history - Bay of Pigs Invasion, the Cuban Missile Crisis, the building of the Berlin Wall, the Space Race, the African American Civil Rights Movement, and early stages of the Vietnam War.

He was a true hero at heart, serving as a boat commander in the WW2 in the Pacific Theater; he conducted many rescue operations and earned a Navy and Marine Corps Medal for bravery. He was never the one to surrender to the enemy but understood that everyone’s decision can’t be the same and everyone must be given a fair chance. An example from WW2 when he attack boat was rammed by a Japanese destroyer ship Amagiri, he asked the remaining crew of his boat -

“A lot of you men have families and some of you have children. What do you want to do? Fight or Surrender? I have nothing to lose.”

Like any other humans he too had his failings, he was known to have had a number of affairs more notably with Marylin Monroe (She sang “Happy B’Day Mr. President” at the White House)and Marlene Dietrich.

In the end if there was one US president who has still managed to capture people’s interest is JFK, as he was called. His death was also a major controversy at that time, and with that the days of open-convertible rallies came to an end.

2.  John Woo

Chow Yun Fat. Gun Kata. Heroic Bloodshed. Mexican Stand-off. Stranglehold. Face/Off. Mission Impossible 2. Sounds impressive, eh?

What Alfred Hitchcock did to the thriller genre, Spielberg and Cameron did to Sci-fi, this unknown movie director from Hong Kong did to action genre. Never before had we seen an almost lyrical, fluid motion in action sequences, with slow-mo and bullet time capture. But this guy knew how to make even the most standard ‘one-man-against-ten’ gun battles look glamorous. For him, nothing was a more glorious way to die and kill than a Mexican stand-off.

He introduced the world to Chow Yun Fat (A Better Tomorrow), (Info for my action loving friends, the same movie was copied by Sanjay F Gupta to create Baba and Nawab’s legendary friendship in Aatish (1994)). He continued making action movies, each of them a landmark in itself – Hard Boiled, The Killer and then he went to Hollywood…rest is history. Hard Target (Van Damme), Face/Off (Travolta/Cage), MI2 (Tom Cruise) and Paycheck (Ben Affleck).

His style of gun-kata, slo-mo and bullet-time has been used in multiple movies and video games(Equilibrium, Matrix Trilogy, Max Payne (both game and movie)).

You don’t mess with John Woo, else a lot of bullets will come and hit you in slo-motion :)

1. Dear John

It’s a known fact in the primarily English-speaking word, that if a letter from a wife or a girlfriend to a guy opens with the words “Dear John”, it may very well be the last letter from that person. Dear John letters are the symbols of break-ups and have been around from the time of World War 2 when a lot of men on active duty received letters every week letting them know that the woman of their dream has found some one else, some one better.

 Why me? What did I do wrong?

A "Dear John letter" is a letter written to a husband or boyfriend by his wife or girlfriend to inform him their relationship is over, usually because the author has found another lover. Dear John Letters are often written out of an inability or unwillingness to inform the person face to face. The reverse situation, in which someone writes to his wife or girlfriend to break off the relationship, is referred to as a "Dear Jane letter.” – Dear John

Now John might be ‘deserving’ for this, maybe he cheated on his girlfriend/wife, maybe he was in a job which entailed travel, maybe he was serving in the armed forces…but the least a woman could do was to offer him the dignity of a break-up in person and not by a letter (that’s been replaced by the email, SMS, FB messages, tweets and what not). 

After seeing the picture below, I realized I'm badly missing my dog. :(

 I'm your best friend and will never leave you

Actually, I lost my train of thought as to what did I want to write about this Dear John, never mind. I’ll that sometimes later when I remember.

Sunday, April 29, 2012

One Size Fits All



I often wonder if our perception of love – the one that is said to exist between a guy and girl, is influenced by movies and popular culture. I mean there could be three-four common place situations and we could the love-birds that we see around us in one of those:

1.      The high-school/under-graduate – Also known as puppy love, as they are yet to see the real world and  have a pink tinted view of love. First time crushes, first proposals, first acceptance, first rejections. They feel the butterflies in their stomachs, sleeplessness, etc…

2.       The master’s degree/medical students – A little above the maturity level of the kids mentioned before, these guys have probably seen a prior relationship and are better equipped to handle a second serving of the same. A little subtlety in their relationships, but very dreamy, planning futures together, same jobs, same companies, same cities and other stuff…

3.      The office romantics – Experienced, settled in their jobs, earning a decent livelihood and now hitting on a colleague/junior and in some cases…senior. These guys know exactly what they want from life partner and are basically scouting for deals. They are very subtle so as not to jeopardize their careers and hence generally are the quiet ones, without too much PDA.


Apart from that, I couldn’t really think of anymore categories (I know I’m pretty illiterate in this field)
But then I saw something, last night while returning back from a movie I got in a shared auto and seated in front of me was a not so well-off looking man and a woman who was from the same social strata. They were talking to each other while the woman held the man’s hand. They were discussing as to how he could get a job as a security guard for a bank and how she’d get more houses where she could wash utensils and do house cleaning. And since I was intrigued by their discussion, I hunched up a little and she clenched the man’s hand tightly. He said something in her ear which brought a re-assuring smile to her face. She looked up at him and straight into his eyes. I could actually feel the connect they had.

 Blame it on my ignorance, my notions about social strata and people belonging to them, never in my farther reaching dreams had I thought of a scenario where the “hero-heroine” of a love story were a security guard and a house-maid. 

And then I realized, love doesn’t really exist only for the rich, only for the people like me and you, but for everyone who has a heart which can give love to the other person. 

As someone rightly said….LOVE - One Size Fits All…. 

Stay Happy, Fall in Love, Dream Together with the Most Significant person in you life :)

Friday, November 18, 2011

A Case of Belonging

Belong – the dictionary meaning of this word as defined by Merriam-Webster dictionary is:

a.To be in an appropriate situation or environment
b.To be a member of a group, such as a club
c.To fit into a group naturally
d.To be a part of something else

Going by the recent political developments where migrant laborers are being threatened to leave Mumbai, non-Assamese speakers are being persecuted in Assam, Andhra Pradesh on the verge of being divided into three based on the linguistic and cultural roots of the people, Uttar Pradesh into four by a ‘politically astute’ chief minister and if I spread my circle a little, then the targeting of Indian Sikhs in the US, UK and attacks on Indians in Australia, I wondered how does a person prove if he belongs to a particular place, thing, group or does someone really need to prove his sense of belonging?

I’ll start with my own example, I was born a Bengali (although I’ve never lived in West Bengal or for that matter, even Bangladesh :P), raised in Meerut (which is the heartland of Western UP, proper bhaiyya-land according to some, home of dreaded criminals to others), did my masters in Susegaad land…Goa (though I haven’t picked up a word of Konkani), started my first job in Bangalore (I don’t care if its called Bengaluru now), my job took me to West Bengal (Kolkata, Burdwan, Durgapur and myriad villages in between), Orissa (Bhubaneswar, Cuttack) and then Chhatisgarh (Raipur, Bilaspur). I switched jobs and came to Andhra Pradesh (Hyderabad) and currently am on a short term deputation to Maharashtra (Pune). So where do I belong, or more importantly to what do I belong? I don’t really have an answer to that and I don’t even want to find one.

I fail to understand when people comment that “X group of people have come to MY state and taken away MY people’s jobs, MY people’s education and MY land, MY right”. Isn’t freedom of movement for better education, better prospects one of the founding pillars of any free country (which I assume ours is)

If this is not the case, then a lot of pan-India institutions should be clamped down, I want to name some of them –

a.IITs, IIMs, NITs and all other educational institutions which admit students on the basis of their merit and not on basis of their state domicile

b.AIIMS, AFMC, CMC Vellore where world class doctors are made because of their sheer hard work and not because they were from that state

c.Armed Forces because a soldier is neither selected by his state, nor is he fighting for a state but for the country

d.All national-sports teams, because the players are not there because of their state domicile but because of their talent

e.All private corporations, because they choose to employ people based on skillsets rather than the domicile of the state in which the unit has been set-up

That presents a pretty silo-like picture, one where there would be a total breakdown of the national fabric, sovereignty, economic growth and freedom of speech which the so-called ‘sons of the soil…protectors of state culture, heritage and blah blah’ exercise so very well.

So next time someone tells you that you are not from his state, or that ‘aliens’, ‘external people’, ‘outsiders’ have dirtied his state, taken away his jobs and robbed him of an opportunity to make his life better ask him if he really thinks he would have been where he is today without a lot of silent factors working like a clock-work?

And if someone still has an issue with that and says that ‘aliens’, ‘external people’, ‘outsiders’ have dirtied his state, taken away his jobs and robbed him of an opportunity to make his life better, well then fine enough, I won’t come to YOUR state but then please don’t sit in All-India competitive exams (it’s not YOUR state exam), don’t apply to any MNC, Indian-MNC (they are not YOUR state-owned companies), don’t consume medicines when you are ill (they are also not divided on YOUR state basis), don’t and definitely do not apply for a US/UK/Canada/EU… in fact any country’s Visa (they are not YOUR country)

Saturday, August 6, 2011

The Interview

DISCLAIMER
DO NOT BASE YOUR INTERVIEW ON THIS TRANSCRIPT; YOU MIGHT JUST SPOIL YOUR CHANCES.

Do you want to know what happens when a guy has been through 4 big interviews and still unplaced? Read on...

It was December 15, 2009. One more company, one more GD. Once more I cracked the GD and went into the interview. And I knew once again I will tank this one too, so was least interested in putting up a facade of confidence and was completely frustrated to the core.

I'll denote the company in question as "The Soap Company" for obvious reasons of not offending anyone.

There were two interviewers, a lady and a man. So I’ll denote them with L(LADY)and M(MAN).

Entry: Hello Madam, Hello Sir (Someone had told me the lady was the power centre so greeted the lady first)
L: Prasenjit have some biscuits.
Me: Madam, I am here for an interview and not for eating biscuits; so let’s talk (And I push the plate away to her utter disbelief)(Frustration was running through my veins!)

L: So Prasenjit, tell me about yourself (Same old standard question, I am already frustrated. Grrrrr!!)
Me: Most of my details are on the CV itself, I can only tell you about my summers.

M: Then tell us about your summers.
Me: Started the verbal diarrhoea (Fir wahi royal bakwaas..maine yeh kiya maine wo kiya…pak gaya tha 5th time bol bol k)

M: Can you relate your summer experience relate to the work being offered at "The Soap Company"?
Me: Sir you sell FMCGs through retailers, we sell SIM cards and tariff packs through ARCs(Airtel Relation Centers) and multi brand outlets.You push on margin, we push on margin.You design and erect POPs(Point of Purchase) displays we also do that. The retailers gives you 1000 reasons why not to stock your product so do ours. And here as a salesman my job is to give him reason no. 1001 to stock the product.

M: What is your dream company? (I was thinking, lets tell him…I got rejected from 4 interviews so you automatically become my dream company!!)
Me: Super Global. Sir, "The Soap Company" is my dream company.
M and L: Hahaha, text book answer.

Me: Mam, I love Sales, am passionate about pushing my products to the distributors and retailers etc etc
L: I am not convinced.
Me: As a knee jerk reaction I say, “So what do I do?”

L(taken aback): Ok tell me what qualities do you have that can make you a great salesman?
Me: Mam, I am a very greedy person, so greedy that is there’s only one person on this planet and he needs to take a bath, he has to use my soap else he doesn’t have to take a bath. And I have huge expectations, both from me and the people who work with me.

M: (He catches me on the wrong foot) but you marks in PGDM are pretty low. Just 5.48/8 roughly 68%.So you can’t say you expect much from yourself, right?
Me: (Taking stock of the situation now that I've done a blooper) Sir, Life is never a zero sum game. The sum total of all that I do can actually be bigger than one individual thing(Nobody understood what I just said, including me). I have a multi dimensional personality and have a list of hobbies.

M: Tell me.
Me: Sir I am a singer, mime actor (told him about an award I won at IIT Kanpur fest), traveler and avid photographer.
L: What kind of photographer? Do you like the process or the end result?
Me: I like doing macro shots and definitely the process is far more interesting as you need a stable hand and patience to get that perfect shot.

M: Explain macro shots or whatever you said to me.
Me: I told him (for further info check up Macro Photography on Wikipedia.)
L: But why do you do it?
Me: It shifts the entire focus to one single object in the frame which comes at 1:1 ratio and the rest is all blurred. It is like that one single most important thing in your life you want to be or do, for me that is sales (Super emotional - Nirupa Roy style).

M: You worked for Airtel i summers right, tell me three reasons why customers are shifting from Airtel to R-GSM as you said?
Me: Three reasons, telecom specific – Low rates, Specific targeted plans, Our poor customer care.

M: But why would a corporate post paid client shift?
Me: I answered this in Hindi – sir, har businessman baniya ban jata hai…ek rupiya bhi bachaya to ek rupiya kamaya samjho

L: So what are the strengths of Airtel?
Me: Signals, Network, Value Adds etc etc

M: You have done a project on ZooZoos…what’s the project all about?
Me: Mast Global diya usko.Poochna mat kya diya.

L: Do you think distribution is important for FMCGs?
Me:(I was waiting for this question, Gave them superb shit about how reaching out to every nook and corner increases chances of buying, blocks out competitors Bottom of Pyramid aur pata nahi kya kya)

M: You have done this AMFI certification? What is this?
Me: Sir this is a specialized certification for being a mutual fund advisor. Then told him the procedure and all, glorifying a very easily obtainable certification.

M: Recommend a mutual fund to the lady.
Me: Madam, what is your age?
L: What???(Scowl on her face)
Me: No offense meant but I need to know you age to recommend the correct combination to you.
L: If you ask like this, the client will run away
Me: If I have to provide him/her the best possible combo then I have to know this.
M: (Chuckling) Madam tell your age.
L: Assume I am 30.
M: (Laughing uncontrollably)
Me: There’s this formula 120 – X where X = your age, so we have 120 – 30 = 90, so invest 90% in equity fund and remaining in Debt or Money market schemes.

L: hmmm, does your father invest?
Me: No
M: Why he doesn’t believe your advice?
Me: He knows I am greedy, I’ll invest lesser and get desired amount of returns and eat the rest of the money. But my greed will also help me in pushing two tube lights where people can push only one.(Nirupa Roy at it again, emotional attack!!)

M: You come across as very aggressive, why so?
Me: A senior of mine told me, show passion and you’ll get through.(One of the rare times in the interview when I spoke the truth without being sarcastic or angry or frustrated)

L: Prasenjit, you know you can go to Airtel but why this place only.
Me: Mam, I want to work in FMCG and you are the only FMCG Company on campus.(Truth 2)

L: That would be all.

I knew this was make or break, so I launch a mega attack – “I know you gave OT8A (can't disclose the name of my friend here for his safety) a Spot Offer and would be making the same decision for me also. If I don’t get a job here, I’ll feel sad but GIM will get me a job. I’ll work there but I won’t be happy because my heart lies in FMCG sales. If you take me into your company, I’ll give my 110% and you won’t regret your decision”

By the time this sentence ended, I was all red faced and had thumped my fist twice on the table.

I came out and I knew I had blown up another interview.But luck ruled in my favor and I got through "The Soap Company".

Learnings from this episode:

1. Passion is the most important thing, be loud and make it clear that you have to get into this company or else you’ll not give your 100% to anything else. Be that Hindi film hero who yells - "Ganga se pyaar karna agar paap hai, to haan...maine paap kiya hai" and finally takes Ganga with him :)

2. Grab attention, do anything which can grab attention like I asked her age without hesitation. Be the best Rakhi Sawant you can :)

3. Be absolutely ready to back your arguments even if they may be wrong. Think of yourself as Suresh Kalmadi, Digvijay Singh or Kapil Sibbal, it'll be natural :)

4. In the end, when they ask you anything else to say…use a super emotional line to show that the company might get more skilled people than you but they’ll never get more passionate people. Be Nirupa Roy, nothing can beat her in the emotions department or you might try a Shahrukh mode also.

I hope no one tries this technique, this can and will backfire at you.

Prasenjit Choudhury
PGP 2008-10, Goa Institute of Management

Saturday, April 2, 2011

The Cynic

Have you ever tried striking up a conversation with a total unknown, random person..at the airport, in the pub , at the metro station and even anonymous chat rooms? I keep doing these wonderfully stupid things every now and then, and get some interesting ideas about life and other things from my fellow human beings.

This is an excerpt of one such conversation…


Stranger: Hey
Me: Hi
Stranger: Waddup
Me: Nothing much. Back from office early
Stranger: Sweeeet
Me: what do you do?
Stranger: I’m in high school.
Me: good
Stranger: yuppp!
Me: So what else? Is it still cold on your side of the world?
Stranger: Nope! 22 deg outside right noww
Me: Nice weather...where do you live?
Stranger: Alabama! wbu?
Me: A million miles away brother…India :)
Stranger: wowwww
Stranger: That’s a long way!
Me: Dodo!Its not a million miles though...its a figure of speech
Stranger: well its still far
Stranger: I’ve never been out of the country soooo
Stranger: It seems like a long way
Me: so what r u doin sittin on the computer on a weekend?
Stranger: i got in trouble
Me: grounded?
Stranger: yes sir
Me: haha..what did you do? pulled a fast one on the principal?
Stranger: no.. according to my parents i did something inappropriate around all these girls and they found out soooo
Me: you are 15, you are supposed to be doing things. We all did crazy things
Stranger: I know!!!!!!!!! its soooo annoying
Stranger: Ok temme, are you a Christian?
Stranger: Im guessing not
Me:Am not
Me: and why that question now?
Stranger: what?
Me: I mean why did you bring religion in the middle?
Stranger: because I want to talk about that...
Stranger: DONT DISCONNECT
Stranger: God made the world…and then we spoiled it.
Stranger: God wants u to be happy and married and have kids but what are we doing? when u face God when u die ur gonna regret it
Me: ok, I got your idea…but my friend…why will I have to regret when I die?
Stranger: This whole world has turned into chaos. God is so disappointed with everyone in this world it’s so bad
Me: And you have strong beliefs in religion. DON’T DISCONNECT, but how can you say God exists?
Stranger: OMG! Everybody on here asks me this question.
Me: I mean I was raised as a Hindu but I don’t follow any religion.
Stranger: I know you probably don’t believe in God, but I do and I know he exists.You don’t have to think that but I know he does.
Stranger: He made the world were in right now so….
Me: But how will a non believer get to know if God exists?
Stranger: We didn’t come from freaking monkeys…that’s impossible
Me: I like your attitude…but again….there’ something called evolution
Stranger: Hahaha well I’m serious about this
Stranger: You probably think I’m so gay but I don’t care
Me: I don’t think that gays are better aligned to ‘God’...that's why I’m still talking to you and asking a simple question…how will a non believer know God exists?
Stranger: Read the Bible!
Me: It’s a big book.
Stranger: Go to church
Stranger: Yea I know, you don’t have to read the whole thing.
Stranger: You just need to read the beginning pretty much cause it’s all about how everything started its so cool
Me: I go to church, but not for Sunday mass...I'm an amateur photographer so I take pictures of churches…the Gothic architecture is fascinating
Stranger: You are photographer!?! That’s awesome my sister wants to be that
Me: That's great
Stranger: I guess so
Me: You can capture a moment forever, and you'll know what exactly happened in that moment. For others it’ll be a picture
Stranger: So do you even have any interest of having a relationship with God? Like trying to get to know about Christianity? Or anything? Just wondering
Me: Not religion. God yes
Me: I strongly believe that religions were created by humans. So religion should have nothing to do with the existence of God
Stranger: Well then do it! His love for you is so great...well I see what you are saying
Stranger: I have a religion, its just Christianity. You don’t have to have a specific religion. You can just have a relationship with God!!!
Me: That's the idea, how to know where he is as to talk to him
Stranger: u pray...
Me: Nopes…bcoz it’s all one sided...we pray, we cry…but does an answer come?
Stranger: an answer doesn’t always come... he blesses us in ways that we don’t realize
Stranger: He’s not just someone you ask for something and he gives it to you
Me: Means he is like a guide...you ask him to send you to place X and he points the way, going there is your own choice?
Stranger: Everything you do is your own choice... he can’t control what you do
Me: Then why are we here? Why did God create us? Does he want to watch a movie?
Stranger: But everything you do should be something that God would be proud of…
Stranger: Why are we here? No one knows! God put us here to be HIS people
Stranger: this is not just a "movie" it’s a horror movie to him
Me: If he wanted us to be HIS people...means he wanted to get something done from us…probably the end of the planet. He couldn’t do it so created us to kill it 
Stranger: WE ARE ON THIS EARTH BECAUSE GOD SENT IS SON JESUS TO DIE FOR OUR SINS ON THE CROSS! THAT IS WHY WE ARE HERE!
Stranger: Sorry caps was on... didn’t know
Me: Ya…felt like you were shouting standing on a rooftop
Stranger: Sorry!!!
Me: ok, let’s take it step by step...God sent his Jesus to die so we are here
Stranger: God sent his son, Jesus
Me: Means if we weren’t here Jesus won’t have to sacrifice himself on the cross, correct?
Stranger: correct
Me: So why did God take so many pains to create us?
Me: I’m messing up your head, I like to question things.
Stranger: He already sacrificed himself a very long time ago.... Because he loves us!!!!!!!!!! (: he used his own son to take away our sins
Stranger: No its fine I love to teach people this stuff
Me: at your age? You want to go to seminary?
Stranger: Here hang on I have a bible verse to show you that explains some of it
Me: Sure
Stranger: John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." That kinda does…
Stranger: Like if you do anything wrong...God is going to forgive. He loves you even if you don’t have any idea who he is. His love is unconditional
Me: Guess its a circle - God gave up his son so we could survive, and we were created by God. So essentially God messed up things by creating humans
Stranger: God doesn’t mess things up
Stranger: Humans messed up this world he didn’t
Stranger: people around here don’t freaking care about anything. (Not trying to be against you) but a lot of people around the world just have sex whenever they want to...murder people…kids are raped all the time...I mean God doesn’t even come across anyone’s mind anymore
Me: That signals the end of the world…Judgment Day as you call it, right?
Stranger: You sound just like my mom. She’s positive the world is gonna end next year
Stranger: like 100%
Stranger: and yes it’s called Judgment Day when you die
Me: Don’t compare me to mom. She must be a much better person
Stranger: Why would she be a better person?
Me: She is a mom...moms are always good
Stranger: ahah she’s pretty awesome!
Me: Now coming back to your concern…SEX….here something for you…Isaiah 34:16 – “None shall want for a mate”
Me: If God doesn’t want us to have sex before marriage...well...then half of the world’s love stories will end then and there.
Me: Then we'll just remain friends with everyone.
Stranger: Noooo!!
Stranger: Loving someone is wanting to be with them for the rest of your life and you would do anything for them not just having sex with them
Me: But the bitter part of this story is that love doesn’t actually last for a lifetime
Stranger: It does for some people
Me: You are a Christian, and then you must be against divorce also?
Stranger: Ok my parents are divorced…and yes I am against it
Stranger: But I believe that God planned for my parents to get divorced because my dad treated us horribly.
Stranger: So my parents’ getting a divorce was a blessing.
Me: Sorry for you. I guess then your mum took right step
Stranger: Yes she did.
Me: So apart from educating people on religion what else do you do? Basketball?
Me: Skating?
Stranger: Basketball, baseball and football
Stranger: what do you do?
Me: I do quite a lot of things
Stranger: Like?
Me: Pictures, writing (blogger), I like ping-pong and soccer
Stranger: sweeeett
Me: hey wait! I just realized you are here as you did something inappropriate with a girl.
Me: God fearing people don’t do such things
Me: Hahah…our strictly “no sex before marriage”, “God will punish you” man misbehaves with women and gets caught.
Stranger: It was a joke I didn’t mean anything sexual!
Me: Well my friend, you are on thin ice…you don’t know about why you are here or who sent you here. You believed in a book which was written by humans. So all the very best to you in finding your God.
Stranger: And do you have your God?
Me: Yes, we have a pretty good working relationship.
Me: Next time, be better prepared when talking to cynics like me…as all it takes is a cynic to bring the world crashing down on your head.